Post by mokole on Jan 15, 2023 18:22:33 GMT -5
This thread should be in other discussions as it's not a Leaf topic.
It is odious when some of my clients (or co-workers) talk about things that affect our lives in hushed tones, behind closed doors, because of certain people who push an agenda that is anything but polite, honest, truthful, scientific, what have you, people I can't trust anymore. It doesn't have to be many people, but when my bosses have come to talk to us the last 3 years to see how everything is going we kept hearing (just matter-of-factly) shocking stories:
In late Summer 2020 our bosses come to talk to us and I learn of suicides, murder, internal fights my coworkers and I were completely oblivious to. Late Spring 2021 we find out about a dozen or more suicides, staff fights, we were shocked to the core, we had heard no such news (but maybe knowing that very few people at 'home office' actually went to work regularly was a clue that something was very, very wrong, not just lockdowns). In late Summer 2021 we learn of a huge fight, someone in a meeting brought up an objection to a policy change that was clearly unworkable and she was attacked so much for it she quit, and others soon followed. Late Spring 2022 my closest coworker quit, she couldn't deal with all the garbage. And we learn the Federal government is making a change to how we do our jobs that is not good for First Nations (and lots of our clients are First Nations). Last week we found a work-around, and that has really eased tensions a lot, it might be something we can share with all clients. I don't work for a government but they can impact First Nations in ways I didn't expect.
Never assume ANYTHING about what another person is thinking, dealing with, what facts they know, who they are, their motivations. NEVER. I got told a story recently just about that. A speaker told us he had a new worker who was late, left early, unreliable. He went to the top boss to fire the guy; the boss asked if he'd ever really talked to the new employee. He said no. The top boss told him the guy's wife was very ill and he got to work late because of her illness and getting the children ready for school, he left early to get his wife to her many, many medical appointments as she couldn't drive anymore. The speaker justly felt like a fool and quit himself within a year, he wasn't being a good boss, was making assumptions, wasn't listening, was doing what far too many people of many stripes do (Inclusive people, conservatives, woke people, antifascist, fascist, right wing, left wing, up wing, down wing...), which is why he's a speaker now. I've had to deal a lot the last three years with people making assumptions without the facts, without listening, it is EXTREMELY hard to trust them now.
I like talking sports, hockey, football, but dealing with all that I just mentioned and more that I haven't makes me very much want to let other people live in their ignorance and pay the price for it themselves. Years ago if someone told me what was obviously a lie/misinformation I'd point them to the facts that showed them why they were wrong so they'd save themselves from looking stupid. The last 3 years I wasted my breath, so I've stopped. I rarely talk to people anymore, if they want to make donkeys of themselves, I can't waste the energy anymore. I post less here because my mental health matters too.
It is odious when some of my clients (or co-workers) talk about things that affect our lives in hushed tones, behind closed doors, because of certain people who push an agenda that is anything but polite, honest, truthful, scientific, what have you, people I can't trust anymore. It doesn't have to be many people, but when my bosses have come to talk to us the last 3 years to see how everything is going we kept hearing (just matter-of-factly) shocking stories:
In late Summer 2020 our bosses come to talk to us and I learn of suicides, murder, internal fights my coworkers and I were completely oblivious to. Late Spring 2021 we find out about a dozen or more suicides, staff fights, we were shocked to the core, we had heard no such news (but maybe knowing that very few people at 'home office' actually went to work regularly was a clue that something was very, very wrong, not just lockdowns). In late Summer 2021 we learn of a huge fight, someone in a meeting brought up an objection to a policy change that was clearly unworkable and she was attacked so much for it she quit, and others soon followed. Late Spring 2022 my closest coworker quit, she couldn't deal with all the garbage. And we learn the Federal government is making a change to how we do our jobs that is not good for First Nations (and lots of our clients are First Nations). Last week we found a work-around, and that has really eased tensions a lot, it might be something we can share with all clients. I don't work for a government but they can impact First Nations in ways I didn't expect.
Never assume ANYTHING about what another person is thinking, dealing with, what facts they know, who they are, their motivations. NEVER. I got told a story recently just about that. A speaker told us he had a new worker who was late, left early, unreliable. He went to the top boss to fire the guy; the boss asked if he'd ever really talked to the new employee. He said no. The top boss told him the guy's wife was very ill and he got to work late because of her illness and getting the children ready for school, he left early to get his wife to her many, many medical appointments as she couldn't drive anymore. The speaker justly felt like a fool and quit himself within a year, he wasn't being a good boss, was making assumptions, wasn't listening, was doing what far too many people of many stripes do (Inclusive people, conservatives, woke people, antifascist, fascist, right wing, left wing, up wing, down wing...), which is why he's a speaker now. I've had to deal a lot the last three years with people making assumptions without the facts, without listening, it is EXTREMELY hard to trust them now.
I like talking sports, hockey, football, but dealing with all that I just mentioned and more that I haven't makes me very much want to let other people live in their ignorance and pay the price for it themselves. Years ago if someone told me what was obviously a lie/misinformation I'd point them to the facts that showed them why they were wrong so they'd save themselves from looking stupid. The last 3 years I wasted my breath, so I've stopped. I rarely talk to people anymore, if they want to make donkeys of themselves, I can't waste the energy anymore. I post less here because my mental health matters too.